Almost 3 years ago I was pregnant. I had already 3 children from another partner and the experience of pregnancy and birth. But I took the decision to experience it a completely different way!
My previous experiences were healthy pregnancies with few preparation to birth and postpartum.
I had 3 times very long labors: almost 17 hours each, giving birth into a hospital with epidural with almost no support, even from the father of my first 3 children.
This time, my intuition guided me to the online class “From Pain to Power” from Debra Pascali Bonaro.
I took the class and received a lot of love and important information which served me a lot!
I realised that pregnancy is a transformative period. I found out that I was sexual abused in my previous relationship and that was one of the reasons why the previous labors lasted so long! If I wanted my body to work with me I had to support it with healing. I made the conscious choice to heal that past wounds and to support my body, so that [in turn] my body could support me and my baby…
Healing is what I did from early in the pregnancy: I invested a lot during my pregnancy, taking the online class consistently, letting myself feed inspired by all the information that I received each week, practicing each morning pregnancy kundalini yoga, using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), eating the healthiest that I could (fresh organic raw food), eating food supplements, resting a lot, listening to my body, meditating, using haptonomy, having fun, enjoying life, making lots of love, focusing on my dream birth together with my enthusiastic partner all while being supported by him, guided by a caring midwife, osteopath, naturopath, haptonomie, trusting in life, in myself and my intuition, in my body and in God!
During the all pregnancy I surrounded myself only with loving, caring people who supported my birth vision and I took distance from all the other persons (even some of my own family) to put all the chances on my side! I took all the information that I needed to realize my dream birth and I kept visualizing and affirming it, together with the father of my child. We were, both, enough informed and ready to experience that moment together, as a couple, to welcome our baby. My partner knew also what was the best way to support and help me all the way.
The last days of the pregnancy, me and my partner felt ready. We decided to plan the birth of our baby. I wanted it in intimacy, only myself, my partner, our baby and the midwife. As our baby didn’t came yet, the weekend after the “official planed birth date” was the weekend that my other children were due to go to their father for 3 days. The Friday morning I proposed to our baby to come between that moment and the Sunday because the conditions were ideal, as I wanted! I used the acupressure to induce labor and… Saturday afternoon I went with my partner on bicycle to have a long walk in nature. That evening labor began while I was watching “Eat Pray Love” on the television with my beloved.
The labor went fast, I was outside during the time, in myself, listening to my body and letting it guide me through the process. I knew exactly what I wanted and needed from my partner to help me through the power of the “waves”. He pushed on my lower back with his hands and it diminished the sensations to 10% of what it was! Almost a natural epidural ; ) We put on relaxing 432hz music, a lot of candles and had a really romantic night. I danced all the time, moving my hips. After a while my partner decided to call the midwife because for me it was not yet necessary 😉 and when the midwife asked the time between the “waves” it was 2 minutes… it was time for her to come and time to fill the birthing pool with warm water.
When the midwife came I felt I could not stand on my legs anymore so she invited me to go into the pool (just on time filled with enough water!). That’s what I did together with my partner. After 3 times pushing to birth our baby, I visualized my birth canal as a orange slide, I felt a light orgasm and our baby was born! The labor and birth together lasted around 4 hours… a big difference with my previous experiences.
Some choices Virginie made surrounding birth and the baby moon:
- After birth we left the placenta almost 4 hours with our baby before we decided to burn the umbilical cord.
After one week we apply baby potty training (it was a training for us and something natural for her!) (Editors Note: This is often called “Elimination Communication”
We carried our baby all day long skin to skin for 3 months and still carry her a lot if she needs it
I drank each morning 10 days long a piece of the placenta in a shake and put the rest in the deep freeze. (I will make a confidence: our plan was to bury the rest of the placenta together with our child when she would be old enough to understand what we do and why we do it. But last summer I wanted to take some bread out of the deep freeze… when it began to smell bad in the kitchen and I understood it was the placenta! I felt so bad! I felt so guilty! I felt so much sadness! At the end I accepted what happened, forgive myself and we buried it with a lot of gratitude and love in our garden, as planned but a lot earlier…)
I rested 6 weeks at home with our baby, only going outside in our garden for a walk, having my other children and my partner doing the chores, no visits from anybody.
We sent the birthcards after the six weeks and we planned to have as few visit as possible.
We practice co-sleeping (who has now become a toddler and we feel that it become time for her to have her own bed ).
After 6 weeks we went to the osteopathe to help her heal her birth trauma (that we all have)
I still give the breast
We used the Rapley Method when diversifying her food around 8 month
I keep practicing each day kundalini yoga
After 9 months (time for the body to recover from pregnancy) I offered myself a rebozo ritual to close my pregnancy and birth period and take back my body
My emotional healing process is still on it’s way and I have (and still) discovered a lot of things about myself that brings me each day closer to my core and who I really am
Our child is a very strong child! It is a long list of positive things I could tell about her but I will make it short: she knows who she is and what she is worthy and shine it her way! She has a very strong immune system and is very healthy physically mentally, emotionally and spiritually! (at her 3 months she received her first 2 teeth and the rest followed quite quickly), she is very happy, balanced and laughs each day, we almost do not need a television it is so a delightful to watch her! She is so loving and respectful…
I am really grateful to myself and all the loving persons involved in our gentle birth. It was such a magical adventure and I received and learned so much and still do!. Me, my partner and our baby worked together as a team, with so much love, and it brought us even closer and helped us to know each other even better.
I realise the investment me and my partner consciously made during the last pregnancy, preparing my birth, the postpartum period, the baby period… is a life long rewarding investment! And I am really grateful for it…
I wish the same to all women, men and babies on Earth!
I realise it is a piece of my life purpose to share what I received, with couples who want to let them inspire. I am now preparing myself to share this experience through a book that I am writing and workshops.
It is time to pull the pregnancy-, birth- and baby-world to the next level and dimension!
Lots of Love, Virginie Van Overstyns, Belgium.
My name is Virginie.
I have the great pleasure to share my beautiful Life with 4 fantastic children and a marvelous loving partner.
It is during my last pregnancy that I was guided to Pain to Power Classes.
It really helped me to change completely my vision of giving birth!
I received so much information regarding so different topics around pregnancy, birth and after birth that I never heard before through videos, informative pages, links to other informative websites, books and so much more.
My 3 previous births were medical and long: approximately 17h each time with epidural, lying on a bed without moving…
This time it went a totally different way: in less than 4h I gave birth, at home, in water to a beautiful baby with the support of my loving partner and so attentive midwife! It was a dream! marvelous! I did it: I claimed my power back!
During labour my subconscious picked up the tools that I received attending the classes that I needed to transform the pain into power. I was really well prepared and could do it the way I visualized!
Thanks to the course some painful experiences from the past were revealed to me during my pregnancy which allowed me to heal because it was the right time for me and to have a marvelous birth!
In my eyes every man and woman pregnant or not should attend the Orgasmic Birth – Pain to Power course. So much real information is kept secret by the society, it is now time to get our power back.
Thank you Debra for this experience I will always remember and that will always give me strength in Life!